A Random Adult Took My Kid's Cake at a Birthday Party & I Have 'One Regret'
A mom who went viral on TikTok when she shared that another parent took away a slice of cake from her daughter at a kid's birthday party, has posted a follow-up video sharing her “one regret” about the situation. Kat Stickler's initial TikTok video about the birthday cake debacle received over 14 million views and over 50,000 comments. Kat’s follow-up video about what she's now dubbing “Cake Gate,” has received over 3 million views and over 5,000 comments. She said she followed up because she received so many messages about the incident and to share her “one regret” about the situation. Now, she says it was never about the birthday cake.
Fellow TikTokers had Kat’s back and many agreed that it wasn’t about the cake, but the fact that being generous isn’t that hard, especially at a kid's birthday party in a public location. But kindness matters always, especially with 3-year-olds involved.
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‘We should be nice to 3-year-old kids,’ the mom said.
In her follow-up video about “Cake Gate,” Kat shared the one thing she would have done differently. She said, “So I wanted to clear something up and also take full responsibility for the fact that I should have gotten to MK faster. That’s my one regret, that I did not get to her before she could grab the plate.”
She continued explaining, “My issue was not with this person not letting my kid have cake. I understand she wasn’t invited to the birthday party. She had just met these kids. I get that I don't give her cake.” Kat explained what the real problem was. “It’s getting down to her level and telling a 3-year-old girl that those aren’t your friends,” she said.
‘I was only concerned about MK,’ she said.
Many TikTokers wanted to know how Kat responded to the other parent, but she said her only concern was her daughter, per Independent. She shared that the other parent’s comment was “unnecessarily cruel.”
“Just tell her she can’t have cake OK, the issue was with the comment not with the cake. So I just wanted to clear that up. We don’t have to share our cake. But we should be nice to 3-year-old kids,” she said, ending the follow-up TikTok video.
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There's a better way to handle difficult situations with other adults and your kids.
Kat told the Independent that the other parent was the least of her concerns during the whole ordeal with the birthday cake at the park. “People have been asking me, ‘What did you say to the mom?’ The mom was literally the least of my concerns. I was worried about MK,” she said, per the Independent. It can be tricky to handle situations that involve other adults and your kids. Experts recommend taking a deep breath and staying calm in situations where another adult has addressed your child in a rude or aggressive away.
A crisis education survivor for the Behavioral Health Pavilion and Nationwide Children's Hospital Brittany Schaffner said, "It is important to pause, recognize how you are feeling, and take some deep breaths before having the conversation. This will help you fully assess the situation and give you a moment to identify how you want to respond,” per Verywell Family. Next, it is important to check on your child and see how they are doing after the incident, which will help inform your response to the other adult.
TikTokers had a lot of opinions about the other parent at the birthday party.
Fellow TikTokers agreed with the mom that the other parent handled things poorly, even though the cake wasn’t necessarily important, how you talk to other people — especially toddlers — does matter.
"Comment & cake, both were cruel!" one commenter wrote. "Cake is a big deal when you are young — it’s up there with friendship honestly.”
Another user pointed out that it was never about the cake. “The fact that this wasn't immediately clear to everyone from the beginning is CRAZY to me!!! #itwasneveraboutthecake.”
Another user wrote: “Actually, the ONLY thing that mom should have said to MJ is, 'please ask your mommy if it’s ok.' In case of allergies.”
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