I Caught My Sister's Husband Cheating & Now She Blames Me for 'Ruining' Her Marriage
There’s an age-old debate about whether you should tell friends and loved ones about their unfaithful partners. People have a tendency to want to shoot the messenger, and sometimes the damage you do to the relationship might not be worth it.
Plus, more often than not, people already have a notion that their partners have stepped out. One little sister learned this lesson the hard way when she told her older sister that her brother-in-law was being unfaithful.
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The OP recorded her BIL cuddled up with another woman.
A teenager asked the Reddit community if she was wrong for revealing that her sister’s husband was having an affair. She was out with her friend having lunch when she spotted her brother-in-law James, with another woman.
Usually, she would have assumed that the woman was just a friend. But her body language was “very clingy.”
“It looked like they were on a date,” the OP wrote. “The woman was whispering something in his ears. I felt disgusted.” The OP thought maybe she should confront him then and there. But her friend advised her to record everything so she could present the evidence to her sister instead.
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The OP's sister blew up!
After lunch, the OP went straight to her sister’s house. “I sat her down and showed her the video. Instead of crying she got angry and started accusing me of ruining her marriage. She screamed profanities at me and said that I'm jealous of her. It is not true. I always want what's best for her. I tried to explain my side and she kicked me out. I noticed that she blocked me everywhere.”
The sister went so far as to tell their mother that she was trying to break up their marriage. The OP was confused saying she didn’t know what she did wrong and that she was just trying to be a good sister.
'People shoot the messenger every day,' one commenter noted.
The people of Reddit were unanimous about the OP not being the a--hole in this situation.
“People often vent their feelings on the 'safest' target, instead of venting their feelings at the perpetrator,” one user wrote. “It's not an emotionally mature response, but it's common.”
Another offered this saying: “People shoot the messenger every day."
“The messenger is shot more often than the cheat," another wrote.
Eventually, the sister came around.
Thankfully, in an update, the OP explained that her sister eventually came around. “Yesterday my sister came to our house with her bags. She had left James. I was in my room but was eavesdropping. My mother was consoling her while she cried. As far as I know she will be divorcing James. Then she came into my room and apologized. She said that she already had suspicions when James was hiding his phone a lot. But my proof has made her suspicions come true. She reacted badly. She wanted it to be false. Because she fought the entire world to be with him (really? That guy sis?).”
The OP said this was the first time the two of them talked so openly. Ultimately, she’s glad that her sister and James didn’t have any children together. “I am not mad at her anymore. I know what she did was wrong. But I get where she was coming from,” she wrote.
There was a happy ending.
Users had some comments after the update, too.
One comment reads: “It is not always easy to do the right thing, but it is always the 'right thing' to do. I’m glad it worked out for your sister. I hope she finds happiness and healing and that the two of you support each other and grow closer. Stand by her, she is only at the beginning of her journey and there will be many hard days ahead."
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