I Had to Tell My Husband’s Mistress That He Died — It Was as Weird as One Would Think
We’ve all seen some pretty weird things on the internet, but a video of a woman on TikTok sharing that she had to tell her husband’s mistress he died really takes the cake. The 36-year-old from Cincinnati, Ohio, lost her husband to suicide in 2018, but recently stunned the internet after sharing the response her husband’s mistress gave her. “There is a lot to unpack here,” she wrote.
Bridgette Davis rocked the internet after sharing her video on March 19.
“When your husband of 10 years dies and you have to tell his mistress,” she wrote in the video’s text.
The video then switches over to a NSFW screengrab of a text conversation between Davis and the alleged mistress.
“F---. I can’t believe this,” the mistress wrote. “I can't, I'm losing it. I can't do this again. He promised me.” Although it’s really not clear what he promised her.
“Can I go to where he was buried?” she asked Davis.
“No,” Davis responded. She even set the video to the song “Crazy” by Patsy Cline — because well, this was pretty bananas.
Over 2 million people have seen Davis’ video — and people were incredulous.
"I am sorry for your loss and that your man betrayed your trust," wrote one commenter. "Second, we do not own anybody and if she wants she can go to his grave and say goodbye."
"He told her he wouldn't die?" another person wrote.
"'I can't do this again' how many men have 💀 while dating her?" another commenter wondered.
But some people were judging.
"You should tell her where he’s buried," one commenter wrote. "She lost a love too. He wrecked your relationship, not her."
"Seems like you told her just so you could be mean to her and not let her go visit... Either be nice or move on," someone else added.
"Seems made up for attention which makes you crazzzzyyy," another judgy person wrote.
Obviously, people wanted more details, so in a second video, Davis explained she’d share a 'Cliffs Notes' version of her story so as to not upset her teen daughter.
And her story might just help other people with loved ones struggling with their mental health.
“There are few reasons why I told her about his death,” she said in the clip, before adding that at the time she felt that the other woman had the right to know.
“At that point I didn’t have anything against her and I knew the man that I married and the man she was dating were two different people,” she explained.
Davis said her husband struggled with his mental health his whole life and was diagnosed with Bipolar II in 2017.
At one point he did genetic testing to see what type of medication would work best with his body and decided to try a different medication.
“In November of 2017, I found some questionable things in his phone that I ended up confronting him about,” she recalled. “The confrontation ended in a pretty big argument and he ended up leaving for the night — I still don’t know where he went.”
Her husband returned at 5 a.m. the next day and asked the mom if she’d come outside and talk.
“Outside he explained to me how bad he was struggling and that while he was gone that evening he’d brought his handgun with him,” she said. “And he planned on committing suicide but he was unable to pull the trigger.”
He swore he wanted to get better and thanked his wife for always standing by his side “and not giving up on him.”
Two weeks later, Davis found more “questionable” things on her husband’s phone.
Again, she confronted her husband about what she’d found, but this time he told her she was “crazy” and said she was “ruining our marriage.”
So Davis decided to find out if she really was “crazy” and do a little digging — “it was so much worse than I could’ve imagined,” she explained.
She wanted to kick her husband out, but because of what he’d told her two weeks before, she was too afraid to.
“The next morning he left for work and instead of going to work he hopped a plane and went to Mexico,” she recalled in a third video.
Davis didn’t even know her husband was gone until she called his phone at 5 p.m. and realized it was turned off, she explained in the footage. She figured he was trying to cool down from their disagreement, but two days later she still hadn’t heard from him.
“I was really worried, but nobody would take me seriously,” she said. She then called the police and they told her it was a domestic dispute and “there was nothing they could do about it.”
She called her husband’s parents and they didn’t believe her either — ”nobody did,” she said.
She resorted to going to the police station and “begging” them to ping her husband’s phone — but they still refused. They still told me he was probably "just cooling down somewhere," she recalled.
Later that day she finally heard from her husband. He texted her and told her that he was in Mexico.
He told her, “he did all the bad things he could possibly do while in Mexico,” she recalled. He also told Davis that all of their money was gone — "our bank account, our savings, our kids’ college funds — everything was gone," she added.
And after blowing through their money, he started spending money on his company credit card.
“He was an engineer at a very well known company and he likely did not have a job anymore,” he told her. He then apologized and told Davis he loved her, but warned that if she was going to divorce him she should “tell him because he would just commit suicide in Mexico.”
“The person I was talking to was not the person I married,” Davis reflected.
She and his parents got her husband a flight home and made him promise to check into a mental health facility when he got back to the United States.
For the first few days at the treatment center, everything was good.
But on the third day, her husband decided he didn’t want Davis to have any access to his information anymore and he wanted to go home, she said in the next part of her series.
“The 72-hour hold was up,” she explained.
As hard as it was, Davis said she couldn’t let her husband come home. Not when they had two little girls who would have to watch him “slowly kill himself.”
His parents offered to let him stay at their cabin instead, even though Davis felt that what he really needed was inpatient treatment.
For a while, the two remained civil and her husband tried to see their daughters and be present in their lives. Davis said that because of some of the things she found out about her husband, she “didn’t trust him alone with them. Strictly because his actions were too unpredictable.”
Thankfully, his job gave him a leave of absence to get his mental health figured out and they didn’t fire him. Davis said he kept providing for their family and had the best of intentions — "he was just really sick."
In March of that year, Davis could tell that something new was going on and her husband confessed he’d met someone on a site “that rhymed with Bet Knife,” most likely referring to the FetLife, which is a social networking site for the BDSM, fetish, and kink community.
“Obviously I had to re-evaluate everything because this was not the direction I saw us going in,” she continued.
That May, her husband told her he broke things off with “the girl” and asked to go to marriage counseling.
“Things seemed to really improve — for about a week,” she said.
In the next video, Davis explained that her husband offered to switch cars with her because she was having car issues with her Cadillac and only he knew how to fix it. On Mother’s Day he offered to come over and show her “how to run the lawn mower and the snow blower, and to just fix some stuff around the house that had been neglected over the winter.”
The two went on a lunch date without their kids and when Davis asked about the mistress, her husband again assured her that they were through.
When she asked him about his mental health “things got really dark," she said in the next video.
“I remember telling him, ‘I don’t want to get a call telling me you’re dead,’” she said, starting to well up. “And he said, 'I’m doing everything I can to make sure that doesn’t happen.'”
After her husband left, she called his parents and told them that he was getting worse and warned that they needed to “stop enabling him.” But they told her she was crazy and said that “he was doing great.”
He invited Davis and their daughters to come stay with him at the cabin over Memorial Day weekend.
But as Davis explained, that with her husband's bipolar, you never knew what version of him you were going to get. The trip was a disaster, and at one point one of her daughters came upstairs and said a “codeword” Davis and her daughters had come up with before the trip that was meant to signal that she wanted to leave — “no questions asked.”
“I obviously had no idea that that was the last time I saw him,” Davis explained.
On June 9, Davis said her mother-in-law called her and told her “I was right.”
Her husband had been sleeping for 36-hours straight and his parents had found out about some of the things her husband had been doing, she described in the next part of her series. Her MIL swore that they were going to make him go to inpatient treatment the next day.
Separately, Davis’ husband texted her and told her that he would come over the next day to swap their cars back.
On June 10, Davis said she woke up and felt “really at peace that day. And I don’t know why.”
By 11 a.m. her husband hadn’t shown up. For some reason she felt that it “wasn’t right” to badger him about getting there sooner, but by that afternoon there was a police officer at her door.
“As soon as I saw the police I knew,” she said through tears. “They had told me that my husband had passed away.”
“I lost it. Like any normal person would. The officers told me ‘Ma’am you need to calm down,’” she said.
In her last video, Davis said she kept her kids close through their healing and they got counseling right away. After her husband’s funeral, Davis said she tried her hardest to help her daughters and keep them protected from anything that would hurt their image of their dad, and it seems like her determination paid off. But the mom seems like she's been able to have compassion for her husband, despite all that had happened.
“He was an incredible father and an incredible husband,” she said — "when he was healthy."
Note: If you or any of your loved ones are struggling with suicidal thoughts, you can always reach out to the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline by calling 1-800-273-8255. They are available 24/7 by phone or online chat.
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