Mom Strikes a Chord With Video About Struggling To Let Dad Discipline the Kids
When many of us become mothers, we simply feel equipped with a mama bear gene. It serves as a mechanism to keep our babies safe. It’s a nice and very useful gift from nature. The only downside is that we may perceive threats that don’t even exist, and we may sometimes activate and employ that mama bear gene against people who mean our children no harm.
This may even include the person with whom you’re actually raising your child. One mom spoke about this recently on TikTok, and many other parents could relate.
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TIkToker Kelsey Rhae says she had some protective issues.
Kelsey Rhae, a work-from-home mother of four, shared a TikTok of herself standing at the kitchen counter. She lip-syncs to audio from a WWE wrestler. “Nah, nah, nah, nah, nah, nah. I don’t think so pal, that’s not how this works,” she pantomimes while shaking her head back and forth.
The text over the video reads: “My brain when daddy is disciplining my first born bc I have some serious protective issues when it comes to allowing someone else to take control.”
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Kelsey and her husband, Eric, are raising children from Kelsey's previous relationship.
In the caption, Kelsey offers further context. Her son Gabe is the product of a previous relationship. Kelsey raised Gabe as a single mother and found it hard to get out of that mode. The pattern presented a real issue in her current relationship.
“For the longest time, I would interrupt situations where Eric would try to discipline Gabe. ... It created a lot of friction,” she wrote.
Kelsey eventually did learn to let go.
Kelsey shared, however, that she has learned to do things differently now.
“I finally learned to let that go and trust that Eric will always have his best interest at heart. It is so important to be on the same page as the other. When it comes to discipline," she wrote in the caption. "Do you feel that you and your partner are on the same page?”
Other moms could completely relate.
The prompt sparked some conversation from her followers.
“Totally considering being a single mom again because I don’t always believe it’s in my kids best interest to have someone besides me,” one woman wrote.
Another TikToker shared this: “The step parent should not discipline the child.”
Kelsey disagreed. “I don’t believe that, they are still an active parent and should be a part of setting expectations and enforcing rules,” she replied to the comment.
Kelsey said the best way to combat this issue is to make a plan.
Someone else shared that the same applies for moms regardless of the other parent’s connection to the child.
“I get the same way with my husband sometimes and he is their bio dad lol,” one commenter wrote.
When another person admitted to struggling with this, Kelsey offered some pretty valuable suggestions.
“Make a plan for how you are going to discipline for specific scenarios, like tantrums/hitting/chores whatever you all are normally disciplining for,” she wrote.
It is sound advice.
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