Couple Tells Moms To Put Their Marriage Before Their Kids & People Do Not Take It Well
When I see couples who’ve stayed together, I always wonder one thing: “What’s their secret?” Is it communication? Alone time? Separate beds? Well, according to one TikTok couple who has been married for 27 years, the secret is something that might rub people the wrong way: prioritizing your marriage over your kids.
The couple, who go by Jay & Sofia online, recently got in hot water for their scorching marriage take.
It was Sofia who let slip one of their “top three marriage tips” in a video from February 8.
“Keep your relationship number one,” she said.
“More important than your job, more important than your friends, more important than your in-laws,” Jay added.
“And moms, it’s more important than your kids and your girlfriends,” Sofia added.
But not everyone in the comments section agreed.
"I love my husband more than words can say, but no way in hell is he or our relationship more important than our child," wrote one person.
"You had me until you said it was more important than your kids," another commenter wrote. "Kids always come first."
"No one is more important than my children, period," a third person agreed.
Other people thought this was spot-on advice.
"Sad how many people say their kids are more important than their husband. That’s why divorce is so high! People put their kids above everything else," one commenter argued.
"All the people saying the kids come first are likely the ones that never leave them to have regular date nights or alone time with their spouse," someone else chimed in.
"Yes they said it, spouse comes first before the kids. Doesn't mean the kids are neglected, do your research if that's what you think …" a third person commented.
In a follow-up video, Sofia decided to “double down” on what she’d already said.
“Moms, I know why you had that reaction because every mom has this instinct to take care of their baby, right?” Sofia explained. “We love our kids, we have a son and a daughter, and we’re not saying not to prioritize our children.
“Our society tells us that husbands are disposable and by your comments I know you think that too and I’m going to challenge you on that," she added. "Your husband’s only role is not to give you children."
Jay also chimed in, writing, “You're wrong if you think your kids come before your marriage because when you have a strong foundation, your chances of having happy, healthy, well-adjusted kids goes up exponentially.”
"Your relationship should be more important than your kids!" they wrote in the video's caption.
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