Redefining Mom Goals: How To Prioritize Self-Care in a Busy Season

The first step in prioritizing self-care during a particularly busy season is to evaluate your priorities. Getting caught up in the whirlwind of to-do lists and appointments is easy, but your well-being matters, too.

Sit down and reflect on what truly matters to you and your family. What are your core values, and how can you align your actions? This exercise can help you gain clarity on where to focus your energy.

It's easy to fall into the trap of striving for perfection, especially regarding your kids' education and extracurricular activities. Perfection is a myth, however, and trying to achieve it can lead to burnout. Set realistic expectations for yourself and your young ones. It's OK if everything doesn't go as planned — flexibility is critical during the busy school year.

Just as you plan your children's schedules, create a self-care schedule for yourself. Allocate specific time slots for self-care activities that nourish your mind, body, and soul. Whether it's a morning yoga session, a weekly book club meeting,, or a monthly spa day, a schedule ensures you consistently prioritize self-care.

After dropping the kids off at school each morning, I like to spend some time working out. Sometimes, that means I go to a spin class at the gym, walk on a local trail, or do some stretching on a yoga mat in my living room. Taking that hour each morning to improve myself and to do something that brings me joy is my ultimate form of self-care.

While my children attend their respective sports practices on Wednesday afternoons, I take myself on a "date." I pick up a latte from my favorite coffee shop near the school before ordering some takeout sushi while relaxing at a nearby park. Sometimes, I bring a book and enjoy being present — other times, I scroll on my phone or people watch. These are dedicated slots on my calendar I call "Me Time."

As moms, we often have a hard time saying no. We want to be there for our kids, their schools, their extracurricular activities, and our communities. However, overcommitting can lead to exhaustion and neglect of our own needs. It's important to set boundaries and say no sometimes. You shouldn't compromise your well-being for the sake of others' expectations.

When I focus on self-care, I'm better equipped to handle the challenges and joys of motherhood. I'm more patient with my children, more present in the moment, and more resilient in the face of the unexpected.

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Believe it or not, you don't have to do everything alone. Involve your spouse, partner, or other family members in the school-year planning and prepping. Share the load, and don't hesitate to delegate tasks. When everyone chips in, it gives you more time for self-care.

If your kids are old enough, get them to help out, too. Show them how to label their school books and pack their bags, and teach them helpful habits such as setting their clothes out the night before. Instilling these habits in your little ones takes some weight off your shoulders and teaches them some responsibility.

This fact took me a while to learn, but it's time to let go of the idea that you must be a supermom who has it all together. Embrace imperfection and recognize making mistakes or having off days is OK. Accepting imperfection frees you from unnecessary pressure and allows more space for self-compassion.

If you’re feeling isolated, connect with other moms who understand the challenges of this season. Share your experiences, struggles, triumphs, and advice. Seek support from friends, family, or even online communities. Sometimes, just knowing you're not alone can make a world of difference.

The most significant source of support was my weekly book club meet-ups with moms from my daughter's school. It was the perfect chance to bond over common interests and to share stories with other moms who could relate to my experiences.

It's also great to know you're not the only one feeling overwhelmed with responsibilities amidst the school-year chaos. There are plenty of other parents in the same boat.

Amid all the hustle, finding a healthy outlet for your stress and emotions can be a game-changer. It could be going for a run or journaling your thoughts. Exploring a creative hobby like crocheting, painting, or dabbling with polymer clay can help you unwind and learn a new skill. You can use clay to craft beautiful jewelry pieces or elegant candle holders. Having an outlet can help you release built-up tension and maintain your well-being.

Remember — taking care of your emotional health is just as important as your physical health. Indulge in one of these outlets after a particularly stressful or busy day.

Treating yourself should be nonnegotiable. As mothers, we often give more than we receive and put treating ourselves on the back burner.

Set aside moments to do things that bring you joy. Treat yourself to a sweater you've been eyeing or your favorite sweet treat from a cozy cafe. These small acts of self-kindness can boost your mood and remind you of the importance of nurturing your own happiness alongside your family's.

You don't have to bear the burden of the alone. Asking for help when you need it is a sign of strength, not weakness. Feel free to reach out for professional support if you need to do more than share the load with your children and partner. Sometimes, speaking to a professional can make you a better mother, partner, and friend.

Above all, practice self-compassion. Caring for yourself isn't a luxury but a necessity.

When you prioritize self-care, you become a better role model for your kids, teaching them the importance of self-love and self-care. You need to focus on your own well-being if you want to give 100% to your children and partner.

This year, as I help my little ones through another year of growth and learning, I'm also committing to nurturing my growth and well-being. I've learned that when I care for myself, I'm not just a better parent — I'm a happier, healthier, and more fulfilled version of myself.

Redefining your goals as a mother to prioritize self-care during the school hustle is essential for your overall well-being and ability to be the best parent possible.

Shifting your focus to things that bring you joy can help you navigate this busy season with grace and balance. Remember — you deserve self-care just as much as anyone else. It's time to make it a nonnegotiable part of your journey.