Wife Refuses To Allow Her Husband's 'Trash' Child To Come Into Her Home
BrianAJackson/iStockWhen your partner has children outside of the marriage, your relationship — and perhaps life in general — can become filled with tension. That's especially true when your partner wants to bring that child into your home. Adding that child into your family space can lead to a ton of problems.
A mom on Reddit opened up in its popular Am I the A--hole forum. She explained that she is facing an issue with her husband and the child he had with his mistress. The wife shared that she doesn't want her husband bringing his other child into their home. Surprisingly, many people online are supporting her and her feelings about the situation.
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The wife shared that her husband had an affair while she was pregnant.
"My husband cheated on me while I was pregnant and had a baby with another woman. I found out after the other child was born," the wife wrote in the forum. "I have never been okay with this. It's exactly the kind of trash I tried so hard to have NOT be part of my life."
She has been trying to divorce her husband but is stuck at a 'legal dead end.'
In the state the couple lives in, to file for a divorce, the couple has to have been separated for more than a year and living in separate residences. Her husband does not want a divorce and refuses to move out of the home she owns. Therefore, it's hard for her to get the ball rolling on the divorce front. They are, however, separated.
The house they live in is 'technically hers.'
"The house we're living in is truly only mine. It's under my parents' names, but I got it when I got POA and they had to go into a care home," the wife shared.
POA means she was her parents' power of attorney, a legal document that allows a person to appoint an individual or individuals to represent them.
It's been two years since the affair happened, and her husband wants to bring his other child into their home.
The wife shared that he has a visitation schedule with the other child's mother and wants the visitation to be in "his home," which is technically the Reddit user's home, because he refuses to move out. The wife shared she doesn't want the other child in her home at all.
"This child may technically be siblings to mine, but I don’t need to play mom to this kid to make a relationship happen, and I don't want any of this trash coming into mine or my child's safe space," she wrote.
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Her family, however, thinks she's wrong.
She shared that her husband and their families disagree with her stance on this issue and share the belief that she is being a "witch" by excluding the child from their home and from having a relationship with her other children. In addition, they think she just has to deal with it because she is legally still married to her husband.
She asked the Reddit community if she was wrong for her feelings about the situation.
Many people on Reddit agreed that she's not wrong for how she feels.
"His child is not your responsibility, and I don’t blame you for not wanting the child in your house," one Reddit user wrote. "That’s a physical reminder to you of your husbands infidelity, and you do not have to babysit the child because your husband and the other woman are incapable of arranging appropriate child care."
Others wrote that if her husband wants time with his other child, he should move out already.
As one user shared, "If it wasn't for the legal red tape you would of already been on the way to divorce. If your legal husband wants a custody time of his other child he can go move out, [you] are not in a relationship you don't owe him any compromise in this matter."
A few commenters who agreed with her pointed out that she should remember where her anger is targeted.
"You don’t need to call the kid trash, but your point is valid. You have no obligation to bond with your husband’s affair child," one person wrote. "You are legally separated and his obligation to his child has nothing to do with you. Just try to keep your anger directed at the adults in the situation. The child has no control over anything."
